For nearly a decade, I searched high and low for real love. But finding love unexpectedly was never something I imagined for myself.
Before my loving boyfriend came into my life, it felt almost impossible to find a decent guy who actually wanted a relationship.
Either they weren’t ready, wanted friends-with-benefits, or saw me as “just a friend.” By March 2021, I was drained, frustrated, and overwhelmed.
And that’s when I finally decided to stop chasing love and start focusing on my own life again.
The Cliché Line I Never Believed
Growing up, my mom always reminded me of the cliché line: “Love happens when you least expect it.”
The thought of love at first sight, perfect matches, and storybook moments seemed unreal. It felt like things that only happened in movies or to the lucky few in real life.
And so, because of that mindset, I concluded that I would never find a nice guy. To experience the beauty of love. Until I was proven wrong years later.
Finding Love With My Boyfriend
To make a long story short, I met him at work during my days as a coffee barista.
At the time, I had been working at Starbucks for almost 2 years and was looking to transfer to another store closer to home.
The store I ended up going to was the one where my soon-to-be boyfriend worked.
The first day I met him, it was an instant attraction. And after talking for a few weeks, the rest is history.
A Starbucks love story turned into one of the best decisions of my life. When I met him, I realized there’s someone out there for everyone
Because even when you feel like nothing is working out, the universe may be quietly rearranging things in your favor.
3 things to remember when searching for love
1. Finding love unexpectedly is not a race
Finding a connection is a blessing, but it shouldn’t consume you. To the point that being single is the only thing you think about. So instead of focusing on the little things, remember to live your life and work on your goals.
And let love come naturally, instead of treating it like a race or marathon you have to finish.
2. Be Open to New Ways of Meeting People
If waiting feels exhausting, explore online dating or apps like Meetup. Where you can meet new people, locals or newcomers, who are also looking to connect.
3. Focus on Yourself Until Love Finds You
Building a strong sense of self-worth makes finding love easier when it arrives. The more confident and fulfilled you feel on your own, the better your future relationship will be. Because in the long run, you will not have to depend on being in a relationship to be happy.
Conclusion
There’s no perfect formula or guaranteed path to romance. You can find your person at the grocery store, bookstore, or anywhere.
If you’re feeling discouraged, remember this: your story is unfolding in its own timing. Use your single season to grow, explore, and discover yourself.
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Until next time, never forget to love yourself first and remember: everyone’s journey to love is different. Toodles!
